The folks at the Memory Care Facility said that one of the benefits of my LO being there, is that most likely our relationship would change, for the better, because I would no longer have the role of the caregiver and I could go back to being a spouse. The “thing” I missed the most … More Intimacy…..
2 1/2 months in and my LO thinks she’s been there, Memory Care (her new home) for at least 2 years. She appears to be adjusting very well. She was asked by a fellow resident, “why are you here? You’re too young!” Without a blink she informed her that if she didn’t know, she happens … More The New Normal…
I love Roller Coasters! My favorite is Space Mountain at Disneyland because it’s mostly in the dark and you never “see” it coming! Well…… that’s fine for pure pleasure but in real life I think most folks, (myself included) like to “see” it coming; it’s those unexpected twists and turns that can really throw us … More Roller Coaster Ride….
I have always prayed and trusted in my higher power. Today, it is like the air I breathe, extremely valuable if I want to survive. My next indicated step, in response to the potential physical violence from my LO, who has Young-onset Alzheimer’s, is to have a “Plan B”. Yes, I know that her tirades … More What’s best……?
We were walking into our primary Dr.’s office a couple of weeks ago, (routine blood work follow-up), When a young girl (early 20’s) rushed to help my LO with the door, (she walks extremely slow and with a cane). Pleasantries were exchanged and she continued the conversation with a question, “Do you believe in Jesus?” … More A chuckle for a Sunday morning…….
Having anxiety about the future, i.e. not being able to control everything because “you know….., I know what’s best”; is something I struggle with and pray constantly for help with that. My mantra: is “just do the next indicated step and leave the results to God.” Applying for Social Security Disability for my LO was … More Just do the next indicated step….
One week later, after being told she has Early Onset Alzheimer’s, my LO is convinced the Neurologist is “playing the game” to help her get SS disability. She now “knows” the Dr. was speaking to her in “code” when she told her she has deficits, because she has to have deficits to qualify for disability; … More Wishful thinking…..
This the last leg of a week long trek thru AZ. First leg was the Grand Canyon, she (my LO, with early onset Alzheimer’s disease), had never been; (trying to create memories); The second leg was a visit with good friends at The Lodge in Prescott, (gracious hosts-thanks); and now the final leg: We are staying … More Sanctuary
It amazes me how flexible one can be if you really want to. I mean, I love my spouse and I pledged to love and cherish her through thick and thin, (I don’t know know if Alzheimer’s is “thick or thin”, but it’s definitely not “regular”!), so trying to learn patience is the least that … More “Just when you think it’s safe …..”
I met with the attorney to sign the new documents changing my Power of Atty (POA), to someone else other than my spouse. If something happens to me, my LO could not take care of business for herself much less for me. I chose someone whom I trust to take care of her the best … More Emotional Roller Coaster…..