I’ve been ignoring the urge to post; convincing myself nothing earth shattering or worthy of a post is going on. But in reality, lots is going on. I can sometimes revert to “old” habits of, “if I ignore it or don’t acknowledge it, then it doesn’t exist”! It used to work all the time but … More Procrastination…..
The folks at the Memory Care Facility said that one of the benefits of my LO being there, is that most likely our relationship would change, for the better, because I would no longer have the role of the caregiver and I could go back to being a spouse. The “thing” I missed the most … More Intimacy…..
2 1/2 months in and my LO thinks she’s been there, Memory Care (her new home) for at least 2 years. She appears to be adjusting very well. She was asked by a fellow resident, “why are you here? You’re too young!” Without a blink she informed her that if she didn’t know, she happens … More The New Normal…
It’s been a few weeks since my last post; At that time I said we were on a waiting list for a memory care community for my LO; a spot did finally open up. She has been there almost 4 weeks now. The first 5 days were hellish, as you can probably imagine. After the … More What’s really important???
I love Roller Coasters! My favorite is Space Mountain at Disneyland because it’s mostly in the dark and you never “see” it coming! Well…… that’s fine for pure pleasure but in real life I think most folks, (myself included) like to “see” it coming; it’s those unexpected twists and turns that can really throw us … More Roller Coaster Ride….
I have always prayed and trusted in my higher power. Today, it is like the air I breathe, extremely valuable if I want to survive. My next indicated step, in response to the potential physical violence from my LO, who has Young-onset Alzheimer’s, is to have a “Plan B”. Yes, I know that her tirades … More What’s best……?
First: update on the DMV- She didn’t pass the written test, (you can miss 3 and she missed 4). But, wait for it!……. they allow them to re-test within a week. This time she studied, and she passed! So, the next step is the driving test. I would have bet you $100 she could pass … More Where do I start…….
We now have a caregiver 8 hrs/day, 5 days/week. I thought this day would not get here so soon, but then again what is soon. My life truly feels like the Wizard of Oz at times and at times, my “new” normal feels normal! I guess my training in a 12 step program to, “just … More “It is what it is………”
There was a “goof-up” from the Dr.’s office in getting the report to the DMV; I had to call after 6 weeks of feverishly checking the mailbox, to no avail. They hadn’t sent it in! Once I was sure it was faxed in, it was another 4 weeks before the “you have to re-test” letter came. She … More Update:
There’s a saying in AA that, “God doesn’t give you more than you can handle”. I believe that….. but I also believe that it doesn’t mean you have to do it alone. I believe God gives us Angels here on earth, helpers, if you will. My LO is retreating socially more and more. Anytime I … More God’s Angels…..