It’s been a while, 7 months to be exact, since my last post. All I can say is that writing really helps me process “feelings”. So I guess, I thought that nothing was coming up for me; I thought I was “processing” all the new normals. Well….. it’s one thing to cognitively “accept” that things … More Brick House…. ( and not the song!)
There are so many “funny” conversations that I hear, considering I go to a Memory Care facility 3-4 times a week to visit my LO! If I don’t put it down on paper ASAP, It slips my memory!! (no pun intended). So here goes: Today at lunch a fairly new resident sat down at our … More “Out of the mouths of…….”
“Love, love, love Love, love, love Love, love, love There’s nothing you can do that can’t be done Nothing you can sing that can’t be sung Nothing you can say, but you can learn how to play the game It’s easy Nothing you can make that can’t be made No one you can save that … More “All you need is LOVE”….. Beatles 1967
I’m just leaving my Lo’s facility with a lot of mixed emotions. Things have been going fairly well; she reports that’s she’s happy with her progress (therapy); the therapists report that they are happy with her progress and adjustment; the geriatric care manager reports things are going rather smoothly and the move to the walker … More Reality vs. Perceived Reality
I’ve been ignoring the urge to post; convincing myself nothing earth shattering or worthy of a post is going on. But in reality, lots is going on. I can sometimes revert to “old” habits of, “if I ignore it or don’t acknowledge it, then it doesn’t exist”! It used to work all the time but … More Procrastination…..
The folks at the Memory Care Facility said that one of the benefits of my LO being there, is that most likely our relationship would change, for the better, because I would no longer have the role of the caregiver and I could go back to being a spouse. The “thing” I missed the most … More Intimacy…..
2 1/2 months in and my LO thinks she’s been there, Memory Care (her new home) for at least 2 years. She appears to be adjusting very well. She was asked by a fellow resident, “why are you here? You’re too young!” Without a blink she informed her that if she didn’t know, she happens … More The New Normal…
It’s been a few weeks since my last post; At that time I said we were on a waiting list for a memory care community for my LO; a spot did finally open up. She has been there almost 4 weeks now. The first 5 days were hellish, as you can probably imagine. After the … More What’s really important???
I love Roller Coasters! My favorite is Space Mountain at Disneyland because it’s mostly in the dark and you never “see” it coming! Well…… that’s fine for pure pleasure but in real life I think most folks, (myself included) like to “see” it coming; it’s those unexpected twists and turns that can really throw us … More Roller Coaster Ride….
I have always prayed and trusted in my higher power. Today, it is like the air I breathe, extremely valuable if I want to survive. My next indicated step, in response to the potential physical violence from my LO, who has Young-onset Alzheimer’s, is to have a “Plan B”. Yes, I know that her tirades … More What’s best……?