It amazes me how flexible one can be if you really want to. I mean, I love my spouse and I pledged to love and cherish her through thick and thin, (I don’t know know if Alzheimer’s is “thick or thin”, but it’s definitely not “regular”!), so trying to learn patience is the least that I can do. And coming from a place of not having much patience, (to put it mildly!), that’s quite a spectrum to cover!
I don’t have to “be right” by correcting her goof-ups on the sequence of some event, it’s not important. I don’t have to say “don’t you remember” even if it was only a minute ago that I told her some upcoming calendar event, it’s not important. I don’t have to disagree with her when she accuses me of never having told her of some upcoming event, it’s not important. I don’t have to reprimand her when she misplaces the keys, (after I’ve asked her to let me be in charge of the keys), it’s not that important. (so far, I mostly can find what ever she has misplaced). I don’t have to say “I’ve told you a hundred times” how to turn on the TV, (new remote; not my choice); it’s not important. The latest.. I don’t have to act shocked and say “WTF” when she asks “what does this remote go to?” and she holding the telephone….